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A Night At the Met

Recently I was taken on a very lovely date. Completely appropriate, very much my style, and at the same time, unexpected, almost shocking.

Dinner and the opera! And not just any opera, La Boheme! Unless you want Romeo and Juliet, you can’t have higher expectations for romance on a second date or a more idealistic look at love. Man meets woman, woman falls for idealistic man, man woos her until the day she dies.

Not many single, 30 year old men think of dinner and the opera as an appropriate date, and, often, the men that do, can seem rather stuffy and pretentious. In this case, not only was he not flashy, or affected, he isn’t ostentatious at all. The problem on this particular date lied within me. I wasn’t so sure I even wanted to go on a second date, but he was sweet enough to invite me and I do enjoy his company. I enjoy his company, but not in the way Romeo enjoyed Juliet’s, but more like the way Oprah likes to travel with Gayle and Matt likes to play with Ben.

Was I wrong to accept an invitation to such a lavish evening, knowing I wasn’t attracted to the man? What is the exact rule for date number two? Is it wrong to agree to a date for your own personal pleasure, knowing the relationship won’t go beyond that evening?

I did have a great time, but the thought of my date reaching over and taking my hand, stressed me out to the point where I didn’t enjoy the show as much as I would have if I was with someone else. The lack of oxygen I felt at times throughout the evening was comparable to being stuck between an overweight passenger and the bathroom on a full flight with many more hours to go.

So in the end was it worth it? I already knew the story of La Boheme and although a night at the opera is a special treat, sometimes a night at home, peaceful and comfortable is more important than romance.


Happy New Year

So today marks the start of a brand new year for some, and for others, it marks the beginning of a new season. Let’s be honest, the weekend after Labor Day is a very exciting one in most cities. Everyone is back from their summer share houses, summer vacations, or just has that “back to school attitude.”

I have to be honest, nothing is different today, then it was yesterday. If you were one who sat through Rosh Hashanah services this week, your true love was not sitting in the pew three rows in front of you. That was the same quiet, awkward kid that was in your Hebrew School class 15 years ago. And the guy or girl at the bar with you this past Tuesday was not the “wonder significant other” that was hiding at the beach the past three months, that was the same person that was there mid July, you just weren’t paying attention.

So what’s the lesson? The lesson is “the secret.” I am sure for summer reading these past few months some of you read “The Secret,” which teaches us the “laws of attraction.” Think positively and he or she will be there, money will come, you won’t be late for work and you’ll have the winning lottery ticket. Just think positively.

I’m no wizard, no prophet, but if you want it to be, this September marks “YOUR” year. Happy New Year for some, welcome back to work/school for others and to a great new season for everyone!

For the new year I need to know what your goals are, your wishes and your resolutions. I can help you achieve them, grant them true and help you figure them out. Ask away and you shall have your answers!

Let’s chat soon!

Bachelor Girl


Let Me Introduce Myself

So I’m the Bachelor Girl and it’s a pleasure to”meet” you!

I just thought I’d spend a second introducing myself and explaining my purpose. I’m certainly no sex therapist, relationship expert or serial monogamist, however, I am a single, 30 year old woman in New York City, trying to go about her daily life, and if luck may have it, meet a decent guy. Not necessarily the man of my dreams per say, or “the best guy ever,” just someone I’d simply enjoy spending time with.

Now, I’m sure there are many men out there reading this saying to themselves, “yeah, me too,” so this gets back to my purpose. I’m here to tell my stories, share my experiences and of course, give opinions about the “perfect date.” Not just from the female perspective either. I can see it from both sets of eyes and completely have just as much sympathy for you single men out there trying to have a successful date as I do you women! I entertain enough, date enough and socialize enough, that I consider myself to be quite the New York City expert. I’m no socialite, just a regular, “Average Joan,” who seems to make her away up and down and across this maze we live in.

So let me start by asking your opinion. Would you like to hear stories? Would you like to know spots to hit? I’m open, but am here to entertain, answer questions, give advice about where to go and most importantly, am here to make your next date a triumphant one, as opposed to a nightmare. We’ve all been there one too many times!

Bachelor Girl